Avoiding Arguments, Fights, Quarrels - Keeping a Relationship Healthy

The baby is crying, you are working, and your spouse is just sitting there! Doing nothing about it! (No, my husband doesn't do this, lol) Or a friend is taking REALLY long on returning your favorite music CD you had lent them.

What ever the reason, sometimes you are upset. And it's usually with someone. But, having negative thoughts and feelings, only makes things worse! Getting mad and having arguments is definitely not going to solve anything.

According to the Law of Attraction, the more you think about something, the more you will receive it. So, if you are thinking about how inconsiderate your friend is or how lazy your spouse can sometimes be, you will only get more of it.

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There are ways of avoiding arguments, fights, quarrels, altercations with the people around you. And most important, there are also ways of completely altering the negative qualities of a person into positive charms. The less upsetting situations you have, the happier and more peaceful your life will be.

Try the following four steps to avoid getting into arguments:

1. Be grateful for the good things. Keep a little notebook with a list of the things you are grateful for; this includes appealing characteristics of the people around you. Being grateful is a must! If you think and feel good daily about the positive things around you, you will attract more positive things into your life.

2. Walk away. When you are feeling stressed around an environment, group of people, or person, it is best to get away before letting your rage burst! So, when you feel an argument starting, tell that person, calmly, "I'll be right back." Then step outside and walk for awhile. Walk, inhale and exhale deeply to release your anger.

3. Visualize. Go back to your "grateful" list and remind yourself about the positive things that person has. Really, visualize and feel that person doing those things that you like about them. It might even make you smile and make you realize that you were only upset about a meaningless misunderstanding. Never focus on the things you don't like about a person, this will only increase your anger.

4. Finding peace. Once you are calm, approach the person and tell them how you feel. Let them know what makes you upset. Find a solution by offering them what YOU can do to make things better. If you show them that you are willing to improve, they will do the same. Never criticize or attack the person. Instead, offer them a new way of behaving. For instance, "Jesse, next time, try calling me to let me know that you can’t return my music CD because you are out of town. This way, I won't think you are hiding from me."

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Give these four steps a try and let me know how it has worked for you. Remember, to let Jesse know about the four steps that helped you avoid the altercation. Spread the word of peace to bring peace to the world!

 

Thoughts Become Things

The Law of Attraction states that everything that comes into your life, you are attracting into your life. You are attracting to you, whatever is in your mind. If you think money, feel money, and see money, you will attract money into your life. The same goes with happy relationships, health, everything in life. The Law of Attraction is the most powerful law in the universe because it shows that a mental disposition will attract equivalent external circumstances and events.

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It sounds surreal at first, but you are a living magnet. Notice, that those who speak most of illness, have it. Those who speak most of wealth, have it. It is not a coincidence.

The Law of Attraction is not a theory. It has been proven by science, like the Law of Gravity, Law of Motion, and Law of Force. Quantum physics and the universal laws explain that everything is made of energy, and energy, through vibrations, attracts like energy. Any thought and emotion that you may have vibrates out from you to the universe and will attract back what you want.

The Law of Attraction is working in your life right now, whether you are aware of it or not, whether you believe in it or not. Just because you don't understand how electricity works, doesn't mean it doesn't work. You obviously use the television, the internet, cell phones, daily, even if you don't know how they work.

You don't need anything, other than your mind, to attract happiness into your life. Once you start taking control of the Law of Attraction, you will start attracting only things that make you happy.

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Apply the Law of Attraction to Attract Happiness

1. First, know what you want. Write down how your life would be if it were perfect (in the present tense.) For instance, start by writing: "I am so happy and grateful now that..." and list everything that makes you happy, from your dream home to having a perfect partner. Those who never reach their goals might be because they have never had any. Shop online and stay organized with FranklinCovey.

Thinking is what life is all about. The most important thing you can think about is your life! The more you think about your goals, the quicker you achieve them! So, learn how to set your goals.

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2. Second, think, feel, and see what you want. Your thoughts, emotions, and visualization are all energy with vibrations. Focus on positive vibrations and you will attract positive experiences and positive things. Wake up every morning grateful for the good things that you already have. Don't worry about what you don't have, or have and don't like.

Your emotions let you know the vibrations you are attracting to yourself: positive or negative. When someone asks you how you feel, always respond positively. Don't complain. You will just annoy those around you. People like to be around people who always feel good. So, try to feel good all the time. Let petty misunderstandings slide and avoid arguments. Also, singing a happy song, dancing, or simply smiling whenever you feel down, always makes you feel better. Try it! Shop online for music.

"What you think, what you feel, and what manifests, is always a match."

- Esther Hicks

Throughout the day, tell yourself that you are successful, wealthy, healthy, whatever it is that you want. Say it out loud, really feel it! Daily, visualize the things that you want, like your brand new car, fancy jewelry, or time freedom, as if you already have it. Shop for that house, test drive that car, try on those clothes. Do whatever it takes to feel as though you already have the things that make you happy. Shop online at my favorite apparel stores: Famous Footwear, Target, Gap, Old Navy, Macy’s, Casual Male XL, Lands’ End, Western Wearhouse.

"First you visualize, then you materialize."

3. Third, keep believing while in the process of receiving what you want. Once you do your part of knowing and asking for what makes you happy, the universe will do its part by delivering. You always attract to yourself what you think about most. No matter how long it takes, while you are in the process of receiving, you have to continue to believe that happiness is coming your way. Continue, to think, feel, and see yourself with those things.

The universe doesn't put limits on your goals; it is your beliefs that do. Just like the sun doesn't strain to rise and trees don't strain to grow, the universe doesn't strain to attract. You are part of the universe and you can attract to your life anything that you desire. You just have to believe.

It is sometimes hard not to feel in doubt. But there are so many ways of keeping your belief level high. I continuously enhance my life, to gain confidence, strength, and belief, with personal development books, audio books, seminars, mentors, newsletters, and coaches. This will help you attract more and more positive things into your life until you completely live in bliss!

The “Positive Thinking” magazine is an excellent resource. It covers every major area of life such as work, family, friendships, community, health, and spirit. Each issue you'll find empowering real-life stories, encouraging tips, and expert advice to help you lead a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life. Shop online for the “Positive Thinking” magazine.

"Belief is the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish in life." - David J. Schwartz

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Creating Goals

GOAL: (noun) a desired end; purpose, objective

Setting goals is important in achieving success. Goal setting stimulates and invigorates your motivation. If we don’t know where we are going (our objective), it’s impossible to know whether we ever got there. Once you figure out what you want, the ways of achieving them will be shown to you. The clearer you are about what you want, the faster you will attract it to your life. Books such as “Goals! How to Get Everything You Want-Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible” by Brian Tracy are excellent in helping you successfully achieve your goals. Shop online for Brian Tracy’s book and other personal development books.

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"But I have never set goals..."

Neither have 95% of all Americans. That is why only 5% of all Americans succeed financially! A study was done at Harvard University. The graduating class was polled; only 3% of the class had any clear goals set for their future. Twenty years later, the researchers followed up on that same graduating class. The 3% who had clearly defined goals accomplished more and made more money than the other 97% combined.

Most people spend more time planning their vacation than they do plotting the course of their future. In most cases they map out their trip day by day, even hour by hour, and faithfully stick to their schedule. Can you imagine what would happen if they were as specific about the other fifty weeks of the year?

Achieving goals is not the problem -it's SETTING the goals that is the problem. People just don’t do it, however, you won’t make that mistake, because you want to attract happiness into your life and it starts by clearly knowing what you want. Shop online and stay organized with FranklinCovey.

1. List your values

Decide on your most important values in life: family, religion, leisure time, hobbies, etc. Then make sure that you embrace and include them in your goals. This will allow for you to enjoy your journey.

2. Write down what you want to accomplish

By making a list of the things that are important to you, you begin to create images in your mind. Those images and thoughts, if sustained, will become things (having goals acheived.)

3. Believe you can succeed

"Belief, the "I'm-positive-I-can" attitude, generates the power, skill, and energy needed to do. When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops." -David J. Schwartz
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4. Ask yourself questions

Ask yourself HOW and WHAT YOU CAN DO to make your goals come true.

5. Project yourself into the future

You become what you think about. Goals keep you focused on what's really important. Pretend that you have ALREADY achieved your goals. Begin to walk, talk, and act as though you are already experiencing the success you seek. Those things will come to you naturally through the power of the Law of Attraction

6. Focus and commit to your goals

As you get into bed each evening, think about your goals before you drop off to sleep. Get a very clear colorful image in your mind of seeing yourself doing the things you'll be doing after you've acheived your major goal. Really feel yourself accomplishing your goals, and soon they will become a reality. Commit to your goals. Your goals will not give up on you until you have given up on them.

"If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right." - Henry Ford

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